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D6-1 Marriage Policy

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May 31, 2011

Congregation & Community







Marriage Policy

Approved By





To provide a marriage policy that is consistent with scripture for the guidance of the elders and pastoral staff of Bonnyville Baptist Church.


The attached document giving the Biblical standards for marriage forms an integral part of this policy document.






In Mark 10:2-9, Jesus clearly states that God’s view of marriage is the holy union of a man and woman.   Clearly, God’s plan was that marriage involved a man and a woman.   Therefore, it is the policy of Bonnyville Baptist Church that marriage is to be a monogamous, heterosexual covenant entered into by a man and woman with God.  No other relationships can be deemed a marriage in God’s sight and this church will not recognize, participate in, or support any other concept of marriage.   Homosexual marriage is unbiblical and necessarily involves approving ongoing conduct that the Bible clearly describes as sin.


For these reasons, and given the place of honor and holiness that marriage is given in the Bible, Bonnyville Baptist Church adopts the following policies:


1.         Except as provided for in Article 2, only pastors employed by Bonnyville Baptist Church shall conduct wedding ceremonies on the Bonnyville Baptist Church premises.


2.         Pastors who are not employed by Bonnyville Baptist Church may perform a wedding on the Bonnyville Baptist Church premises only after agreeing to follow the marriage policies of Bonnyville Baptist Church, including this document, and provided that the pastor receives the approval of the senior pastor or his designee.


3.         Marriages entered into at Bonnyville Baptist Church shall only be between a man and a woman.   Pastors performing marriages at Bonnyville Baptist Church may only perform marriages between a man and a woman.


4.         A pastor employed by Bonnyville Baptist Church who performs or officiates over a same sex wedding ceremony shall be promptly terminated consistent with the Bonnyville Baptist Church bylaws.





1.         All persons desiring to be married at Bonnyville Baptist Church or by Bonnyville Baptist Church pastoral staff shall be required to complete a course of pre-marital counselling with a Bonnyville Baptist Church pastor or qualified counsellor authorized by Bonnyville Baptist Church.  Pre-marital counselling may be performed by another qualified pastor if such pre-marital counselling is consistent with and at least as rigorous as the pre-marital counselling provided by Bonnyville Baptist Church. 


2.         The pastor conducting the pre-marital counselling has authority to determine that in his judgment the couple is not ready for or should not be married at Bonnyville Baptist Church or by Bonnyville Baptist Church.  In that instance, unless the pastor’s decision is overridden by the Senior Pastor, Bonnyville Baptist Church will advise the couple that Bonnyville Baptist Church has declined to allow the marriage to be held at Bonnyville Baptist Church or to be performed by the Bonnyville Baptist Church pastors.


3.         Bonnyville Baptist Church elders and pastors reserve the right to decline the services of any pastor or the use of Bonnyville Baptist Church property or facilities to perform any wedding ceremony that is inconsistent with the Biblical standards for marriage and this marriage policy.



Bonnyville Baptist Church

Biblical Standards for Marriage


The Bible is God’s instruction manual for followers of Jesus Christ, as well as leaders in His church.  Our church, related policies and personal conduct must be consistent with the authority of Scripture.


All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

1 Timothy 3:16-17



Bonnyville Baptist Church’s policies regarding moral conduct and same sex marriage are based clearly on the Biblical definition of marriage as a monogamous, heterosexual covenant between one man and one woman.   Obedience to the Word of God in the areas of sexual behaviour promotes stable and productive family life.  All sexual relationships outside of marriage are clearly condemned in the Bible (Leviticus 18:22, 26:15-56, Romans 1:24-29 and 1 Corinthians 5:9-13; 6:9-12, 15-20).   The Bible tells us that homosexuality is sin.   The cities of Sodom and Gomorrah were destroyed by God because homosexuality and everything that accompanied that lifestyle had so morally polluted the culture that God could not find more than four people in the community who were not completely depraved by the lifestyle (see genesis 18 and 19).


1 Corinthians 6:9-11 declares that people in the church came out of sin, including homosexuality and other sexual sins.   Understanding that they are set free, washed, sanctified (set apart) and cleaned by Jesus Christ and the indwelling presence of the Holy Spirit they were no longer to practice sin.


We know that the law is good if one uses it properly.   We also know that law is made not for the righteous but for lawbreakers and rebels, the ungodly and sinful, the unholy and irreligious; for those who kill their father or mothers, for murderers, for adulterers and perverts, for slave traders and liars and perjurers - and for whatever else is contrary to the sound doctrine    1 Timothy 1:8-10



As a church that follows the Lord Jesus Christ, we want to make sure that those within the church are doing everything they can to follow the precepts of the Word of God.   We cannot compromise with what the world outside the church says is acceptable.   Since inception of the church, followers of Jesus Christ have stood for what is true and right in the eyes of God, not in the eyes of the world.  The governing authorities in Jerusalem commanded Peter and John to stop preaching about Jesus Christ.   Their response was to obey God rather than man (Acts 4:19-20).   This is still true in many nations where the church is persecuted for not conforming to the world.


The Judeo-Christian concept of marriage dates to the origins of human life on this earth.   The book of Genesis tells us that God’s creation was “very good” after Eve was created to make Adam complete.


The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make a helper suitable for him.” ... So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh.   Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and brought her to the man.   The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman’ for she was taken out of man.”   Genesis 2:18, 20-23.



The Biblical covenant of marriage preceded any governmental laws regulating marriage.   The Biblical concept is that marriage is an emotional, physical, and spiritual union between one man and one woman.


For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.  The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.   Genesis 2:24-25



The term “one flesh” signifies that just as our bodies are one whole and cannot be divided into pieces and still be a whole, so God intended it to be with the marriage relationship.   There are no longer two entities, but now there is one entity - a married couple husband and wife.


The marriage relationship is a model and reflection of our relationship with God.  Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25).   Wives are called to respect their husbands as the head of the family, just as we are to respect Christ as head of the church (Ephesians 5:22-24).   After beautifully describing the selfless, loving relationship that should exist between husband and wife in marriage, Paul states, “This is a profound mystery - but I am talking about Christ and the church.”


Thus, the marriage relationship between a man and woman is one of the examples to the world of the relationship that is to exist between Christ and the church.  To the extent that the Biblical establishment of marriage is corrupted, the example of the relationship between Christ and the church is damaged.





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